What women really want for Mother’s Day: the HoneyKids mums tell the truth

What women want for Mother's Day
Kids, keep the handmade gifts coming. Dads, listen up because there’s one very simple thing you can give us that doesn’t cost a thing…

Motherhood is a rollercoaster. You know the story: even all of the sleep deprivation, crazy pregnancy stories, crazier birth stories, toddler tantrums, childhood ups and downs and teenage angst still make this the best job in the world. When we’re not suffering from mother’s guilt for going back to work, trying to become Singapore’s next top mumpreneur, or schlepping the kids around the island to take them to the best playgroups, dance lessons for toddlers or indoor play centres, there’s one day of the year when our kids and partners get a nudge to give us a bit of extra love and perhaps some pressies – let’s run with it, women! But, how about this year we tell our families what would REALLY thrill us to bits? The HoneyKids mums got together to chat about what’s top of our wish list for Mother’ Day this year, and it’s not about the presents!

Mums, leave this story open for some major hint-dropping if you agree!

Chris Edwards, mum to Evie, Louis and Darcy Chris
“I want so many things… a quiet house on a Sunday (well at least for the first two hours), an annual package with Sole Service (yes that’s massages for me and the hubby every month for a year), a trip to Positano, Italy – is that too much to ask? What’s the best mother’s gift I’ve been given so far? A hand-made card and a sleep-in, followed by brunch with friends at the Shangri La Sentosa – that was a pretty good Mother’s Day!”

 

Georgina Hockley, mum to Minnie, Willa, Ted and Gilby
“I really want a kid-free boozy Sunday brunch with my girlfriends. No, seriously, a sleep-in, latte in bed and snuggles with all four cheeky monkeys. A smoked salmon and cream cheese bagel wouldn’t go astray either. Failing this, revert to Sunday brunch option. Last year my daughters’ school organised a Mother’s Day market where the kids brought $5 and could choose from an array of gifts hand-selected by like-minded mums. I was manning one of the stalls so had to avert my eyes when Minnie ‘bought’ her present. She was so proud giving it to me, and it was a sweet little picture frame and candle holder. She wheels out the candle proudly for family dinner, asking me to light it up.”

 

Lindene Cleary, mum to Edie and FrankieLindene
“I want a whole day to myself to read books and maybe soak up some sun. And a massage. And a glass or three of Champagne. Kind of sounds like I want to go on a holiday…?”

 

 

AniaAnia Carvouni, mum to Lucia and Oliver
“My favourite mother’s day gift was a card made by my little boy, and a framed series of photos of the family. Such a simple thing and I just loved it. Usually I’m the one poring over photos to make into albums for others, so it was super nice to get such a surprise. Also, being presented with it alongside breakfast in bed was a sure-fire win. What would I love this year? A bit of a sleep in. Breakfast in bed (just toast or anything I didn’t make myself is great) and a hot cup of tea or coffee. Brunch with the family, all the kids to be in a super good mood and no squabbling allowed – even if you didn’t get the blue bowl or cup or spoon… Then some time to go out for some window (or real) shopping on my own OR a coffee date with some girlfriends.  The luxury would be that I get to look for something for me!”

 

KateKate Reynolds, mum to Harrison and Vivienne
“The best Mother’s Day gift I’ve gotten has probably been flowers! Right now I want a spa day and a sleep-in!”

 

 

 

Angela Neo, mum to Marcel and Xavier
So while I often dream about life when I could go to the toilet in peace, eat when and what I wanted, and sleep (I miss sleep!), I do actually really like my kids in addition to loving them. So my perfect Mother’s Day would be spent with them. So I would like: brekkie with my two adorable kiddos and hubby, probably at 40Hands or Jimmy Monkey. I would love for them to send me off for some pampering somewhere special, then we’d all jump in the pool at home for an hour or so, and have an early dinner at Camp Kilo – chilled spot by the Kallang river, bbq food, cold beer and the kids can run around. Successfully worn out following pool and dinner outing, the kids would be tucked up in bed by 7pm, and I would be sitting on our verandah sipping a glass of Veuve with my husband.

 

Selina Altomonte, mum to Maxton and Grayson 
“It’s such a cliché, but what I want is more SLEEP. And a day dedicated to reading for fun: a real-life book would be lovely. Maybe a pair of noise-cancellation headphones too so I can’t hear my little monsters trying to break into the room to jump on the bed, or my husband calling for help! The best gift I’ve ever been given? A card with instructions to spend the day at Liberty’s of London for my first post-baby day out solo. Yipeeeeee!

 

Tracy, mum to Jack, Angelica and Rafferty
“The best gifts are the ones that kids have made for me themselves. One of the most memorable was when my youngest, at age two, coloured in a poem his nursery printed for him and taught him to recite the words to me. It made me cry. I also have a set of much-treasured but ridiculously ugly towels (decorated with ribbon swans) that my eldest bought for me when he was five years old with his own money, and a very life-like stuffed cat that my middle child saved hard for because she knows I like cats (and daddy won’t let us have one). What would I love this year? A lie-in and a day where the kids actually get on without the need for a referee (me) and several band aids.

Ilona, writer and mum to Zygi
“I would love an album full of photos of my family and my son! I have over 2,000 photos of my little boy, and have not printed a single photo because I simply can’t cull them down – I love them all! I’d also like my baby to go to bed early so I can look through my album whilst gorging on PS Cafe burgers with fries from Deliveroo and drink French Champagne on our beautiful balcony. No make-up, no dressing up, I just want to relax with my husband – something I don’t do enough of as a new mum.

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Illustration: Nathania Tirtaputra