World Suicide Prevention Day: 10 September 2018 – Signs to look for and ways to get help in Singapore

World Suicide Prevention Day
Suicide prevention in Singapore: signs to look for in your loved ones, and places to get help in Singapore for those in crisis

Here are some shocking facts for you: suicide is the LEAD cause of death in those aged 10 to 29 years here in Singapore. If that is not a frightening statistic, then we don’t know what is. Mental health is a serious topic that isn’t discussed anywhere near enough, and yet it’s a subject that affects so many, the world over. The increasing pressures of our personal and professional lives can lead to moments of hopelessness, and sometimes it’s just too tough to put up our hands and say, “I really need some help.” But today is World Suicide Prevention Day, and we think that if society wants to help break the taboos that surround this devastating topic, we all need to start by talking to one another about our well-being, our worries, our fears and our overwhelming thoughts. So let’s kick this off by saying that, despite the shiny, happy life that social media often portrays, we ourselves have known and lost loved ones to suicide. That fact can never change, but we do hope that by reading this you can try and help anyone in your circle you feel may be vulnerable, and to recognise in yourselves that if you are struggling, there is always another way.

The situation in Singapore

The Samaritans of Singapore provide a safe space where information is kept anonymous and confidential, and it has a 24/7 hotline (1-800-221-4444) and email address for those in crisis. We all know how much pressure we put on ourselves as parents, but these startling facts from The Samaritans of Singapore relating to children as young as 10 years old are especially worrying:

  • Suicide is the leading cause of death for those aged 10-29
  • There are 2.4 times more deaths from suicide than transport accidents
  • Males account for more than 66.6 % of all suicides
  • For every suicide, at least 6 suicide survivors are left behind

The situation globally

In August 2018, The World Health Organisation issued these global statistics:

  • Every year 800,000 people die globally due to suicide, that’s one person every 40 seconds
  • For every person who takes their life, around 20 more people will attempt to do so
  • Suicide is the leading cause of death amongst 15-29 year olds around the world
  • Suicide accounted for 1.4% of all deaths worldwide last year, making it the 18th leading cause of death

Signs to look for

The Samaritans of Singapore advise that looking for signs that someone might be contemplating suicide is not always easy. Some people can easily mask their true feelings, and teenagers especially can be hard to gage and read. Its advice is to ask this simple question about the person you are concerned for: “What is he or she going through right now?”

It may be upcoming exams, a relationship or friendship that has soured or been lost through repatriation, a new baby, a huge upheaval or an international move. Knowing what someone is currently going can help you understand that that person may be in crisis. By monitoring physical, emotional, and mental state, you may start to notice warning signs that could indicate a risk of suicide:

Is this person talking in a way that could indicate feelings of despair?

  • ‍Expressions of being a burden to others: “My family will be better off without me.”
  • Expressions of feeling trapped/in unbearable pain: “There’s no point to my life anymore.”
  • Suicide threats: “If you don’t love me anymore, I will kill myself.”

What actions should set off warning bells?

  • Giving away treasured possessions and saying goodbye
  • Researching suicide methods
  • Writing suicide notes (including emails/diaries/blogs)

Are this person’s moods pointing to a crisis?

  • Extreme emotional outbursts (anger, sadness, irritability, recklessness)
  • Loss of interest in usual activities
  • Humiliation or anxiety

Helplines in Singapore

If you, or anyone you know needs some support then please, please do get in touch with one of Singapore’s dedicated helplines. Your call will never be judged and your conversation will remain anonymous. It doesn’t matter what you say to these guys, but please do say it.

Much love to all.

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Facebook support groups for mums
Raising a teenager: Here’s our advice
Books that deal with tricky subjects including depression