Who were mum and dad before they became 'mum and dad'? Do you remember what life was like as a couple, before kids? We've got tips on rediscovering romance after having children
Life can change drastically after starting a family – and boy, oh boy, it can be a rollercoaster ride! Suddenly, there’s a whole new level of relationship dynamics, and the once seemingly abundant time has vanished like socks in a laundry room! According to John Gottman, a renowned psychologist, a whopping 67% of couples report a decline in relationship happiness for up to three years after the first little bundle of joy arrives.
Between diaper changes, tantrums and sleepless nights that make you feel like a walking zombie, it’s easy to get swept up in the daily hustle and bustle. Work commitments, parenting duties, and the occasional burnout can leave us with little time, let alone nurture our relationships. It is so important to put the time and effort into nurturing your relationship! A healthy marriage builds a strong foundation for your little ones to grow up in, and like sponges, they soak up everything they see from their parents.
So, how can we put some zest back into our relationships while juggling this crazy circus called parenthood? Here are some small but impactful tips to sprinkle on your relationship with a generous dose of love, compassion, and humour.
DIY date night
Who said date nights have to be elaborate affairs? Get creative and have a DIY date night at home after the kids are asleep. How about a candlelit dinner, cozy blankets, and a good ol’ romantic comedy? Book a couple’s massage and have them come right to your door step!
Effective communication is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. Take time to openly express your thoughts, feelings, and concerns with each other. Practice active listening, empathy, and understanding to create a safe space for honest conversations.
Daily rituals of connection
Build your daily rituals of connection, simple gestures that top up your connection with each other. It could be somethings as simple as sharing a morning cup of coffee, exchanging affectionate hugs before you leave the house to setting aside 10 minutes at night to check-in with each other. These tips can come in handy!
Baby swap brigade
Got friends with kids? Team up and create a baby swap brigade! Take turns watching each other’s kids so that you both can enjoy some well-deserved “me” time or a date with your significant other. It’s a win-win, folks!
Remember those sweet love notes you used to pass in high school? Bring back the nostalgia and leave little love notes for your partner to find. Sneak one into their lunch bag or stick it on the bathroom mirror. It’s like a romantic treasure hunt!
Take a moment each day to express gratitude for your partner. A simple “thank you” can go a long way in reminding them how much they mean to you. Or share what you appreciate about them on that day!
If you are finding it hard to connect and need professional help, please do not hesitate to reach out. (More resources here)
By investing time, love, and support in each other, couples can create a lasting and loving connection that grows even stronger with the shared experiences of parenting. Remember, a thriving relationship not only benefits you as a couple but also creates a loving and stable environment for your children to flourish.
Happy Valentine’s Day!