Would you give your in-laws keys to your house? In this follow up episode, Jill Lim gives us her verdict on a whole host of more unpopular parenting opinions. From whether it’s ok to call out your kids’ bad behaviour and what the right role for your helper is when it comes to childcare in Singapore.
About our guest – Jill Lim
Jill is a new age mom trying to do things the old school way. She presents her radio show weeknights on KISS92 and tries to juggle everything else in the day – including learning how to juggle (literally). Mum to a little girl, Lily, Jill is also a HoneyKids regular and contributes articles each month sharing her views on everything from breastfeeding to whether it’s ever ok to argue in front of your kids. Needless to say, she isn’t afraid to share her take on exactly what she thinks of different parenting approaches.
Key points we covered in this episode to take a listen to…
00:37 – “It’s ok to call out your kids’ bad behaviour”. Jill shares with us that she definitely does this on her IG stories, and thinks it is fine, but that her followers tend to disagree…! We also chat about tough love and whether there is a place for it when raising kids.
02:50 – Next up, “It’s okay to hire a helper to take care of their kids”. Although lots of families have helpers here in Singapore, we talk about this from the perspective of being hands-on when it comes to raising your kids. As someone who never wanted a helper originally, Jill has a lot to say about the role a helper plays and shares how it works at home with Lily.
07:11 – “The in-laws should have keys to your house” – As this is the norm here in Singapore for a lot of local families, we ask Jill to share why this would be an unpopular parenting opinion, and what her stance would be on giving keys to the extended family. We also chat about expectations vs. reality when it comes to grandparents.
09:55 – Now it’s time to take on the role of the Dads and whether “Dads need to have a bigger role to play in baby’s lives”. The verdict across the board? 100%! Just don’t expect a statue to be built after you when you do help out Dad!
11:45 – “You can’t have a night out until your baby is a year old”. We share our first night out post-baby dramas, and Jill talks us through the rollercoaster of emotions from guilt to excitement. Plus, the complications if you’re breastfeeding (hello, engorgement).
17:42 – Jill throws one last opinion out there – “can you discipline someone else’s child?”. It’s a bit of a difference of opinion here, but it seems to come down to the relationship with the other parent.
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Want to read more about Jill’s take on things? Jill shares the top 5 expert tips that didn’t work for her, what it was like being a new mum in the new normal, and why she regrets not having a confinement nanny.
How can dads do more when it comes to parenting? We got the tips from the horse’s mouth (aka a dad!) with this personal account. Plus, thought Dads couldn’t help when it came to breastfeeding? Wrong! Here’s exactly what they can do.
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