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It is 11 PM. The iPad is warm. It is under your tween’s pillow.
What do you do next? Three moms at one table have three different answers.
For the first time on Growing Pains, there is a moms round table. We sat down with parenting coach Jacinth Liew, a former secondary school teacher who admits she was not always this calm. Together they take on a supermarket floor, a torn worksheet, a birthday party your child was left out of, and a lockbox.
Jacinth’s answers sound almost too simple. Then she explains what is going on inside a child’s head, and you start to wonder how much of the shouting was ever about the kids.
Someone at this table still has a cereal box on the bench.
Press play before the next meltdown does.
What you’ll take away
- The bear in your child’s brain, and why it turns up at bedtime
- What your child learns the first four times you ask
- The two-word instruction that replaces the entire brushing-teeth speech
- Why Jacinth walks over to her kids instead of calling them to dinner (and what a T-Rex has to do with it)
- The relationship bank, and the maths behind making a deposit after you lose your temper
- Why time out is out, and what replaces it (hint: it is harder on the parent)
- The question to ask your child, and your spouse, before you offer a single word of advice
About the guest
Jacinth Liew is a parenting coach and the woman behind Our Little Playnest. She taught secondary school for a decade, co-authored a maths textbook, and is now a mom of two tweens. Her signature course, From Yelling to Connecting, teaches parents to yell less and connect more with the brain in mind.
Connect with Jacinth:
- Our Little Playnest: Our Little Play Nest
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ourlittleplaynest
- LinkedIn: https://sg.linkedin.com/in/jacinthliew
Growing Pains is HoneyKids Asia’s podcast for the conversations you want to have after the kids go to bed.
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Growing Pains is produced in partnership with Poddster, Singapore’s podcast studio.
