30 tips for flying with kids: Beat boredom on the plane and jetlag

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surviving long haul flights with kids

The Singapore summer holidays are here! It’s that time of year when families make for the airport en masse and Singapore sees an exodus of Trunki-laden peeps head off for a family vacation. After we’ve sent the kids on Summer Camp that is. It’s a time filled with equal parts excitement and dread – family and home beckons (or you could be heading somewhere new, hurrah!) but you’ve got to make it through that flight first. Even if you’re just going on a quick getaway from Singapore, all parents need to be armed with survival tips for that flight with kids. Read on to see how it’s done…

PS: If you’re thinking of taking your helper on holiday for some backup, don’t miss our guide to getting her a vacation visa.

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Surviving the flight with kids is all about preparation, and plenty of snacks!

Airports are your friends
Use this space as your playground and encourage your kids to run wild before boarding. Yes, people may look at you as if your parenting skills are lax, but they will thank you later if they’re on the same flight as you. The idea here is to avoid sitting in the lounge in front of a screen and tire them out instead. Then you’re in with a chance for a mid-flight nap. Yes, that means giving up bubbles before boarding but for greater potential gain later on.

Download Apps. And SING, of course.
Download SING to your iPad mini, pronto (and Boss Baby, Moana, and episodes of Charlie and Lola or The Wiggles). It will probably buy you an hour of peace. For apps, check out these faves that focus on arts, crafts and building: Lego Juniors Create and CruisePeppa’s Paintbox, and Explorium – Space For Kids. For mind numbing fun give Pineapple Pen a try. This one might help with getting them in sleep mode: Butterfly Kisses. And just to throw in something educational, this is a good one for coding basics: Move The Turtle. Got a toddler on board? We’ve rounded up our favourite fun and educational apps for preschoolers, too.

Strap on a carrier
An Ergo Baby or a Baby Bjorn harness can be a lifesaver when you’re juggling more than one child, a child that you need to contain or just a child who struggles to get to sleep. It will save your back if you need to pace the aisles while your baby or toddler drifts off. If you don’t want to risk waking them when they do pass out, simply sit back down and let them sleep on you with support. This is the correct time to order wine. A harness also comes in handy if you’re traveling on your own and nature calls. We’re not saying it’s ideal to visit the bathroom with a child strapped to you but if you don’t want to leave your child alone or with a hostie, then this is the deal.

Bring Sleep enhancers
The 1st Class Kid Travel Pillow is a godsend for parents desperate for their kids to sleep inflight as it turns an uncomfortable squishy seat into a cosy mini-bed. It’s small enough to fit in your bag, and inflates easily on boarding (our tip: use the overhead plane air vent). Kids as old as eight won’t be able to resist its sleep-inducing charms. Buy the 1st Class Kid Travel Pillow online from Marketplace for $59. A new entrant on the market is the fabulous Jet Kids BedBox. Designed by a former aircraft engineer, this nifty device doubles as a ride-on suitcase and inflight bed and leg-rest. Check out the cool video of the Jet Kids BedBox in action . Buy from Taxi Baby for $269.

They can smell your fear
Infants, and even toddlers, have this innate way of detecting when you’re stressed and taking on your vibes. If they cry and you get anxious, it will probably only start a vicious cycle of wailing. Give yourself a pep talk to stay positive, stop worrying about what everyone else thinks and try to chill while you calm your little one. Easier said than done when it turns into hours on end of constant soothing. So, pop someRescue Remedy under your tongue routinely to fortify your resolve and keep anxiety at bay. It also comes in pastille form and there’s even a version for kids.

Drawing and colouring
Take a break from the screen and let their imaginations get a workout with some drawing. Modern Twist makes some very funky silicone placemats with line drawings that kids can colour and embellish with special markers. Obviously these are handy at mealtimes on the plane, and when you reach your destination, and they roll up to next to nothing. If your kids prefer paper, the colouring books by Melissa and Doug contain line drawings that are fun and not too complicated.

Tag team
If you’re traveling with your partner, parent, friend or helper, work out a rough schedule of shifts for the duration of the flight so that you can all take a turn for some meals and down time. Being up in the air with kids on a long-haul flight is an endurance sport and breaking it down into blocks of time makes the physical and psychological demands more manageable. It also goes a long way in reducing bickering. No one wants to be arguing about whose turn it is to change a nappy or watch a movie. It just makes you feel mean.

Normal rules no longer apply
Apply an armistice around eating, sleeping and digital device use while you’re up in the air and you and the kids will be more relaxed during the flight. If they want to eat copious amounts of carbs (see tip below) and watch movies for hours on end, then this is probably the place to let it happen. Just keep on the lookout for sleep resistance turning into grumpiness – tire them out with tickles while they watch TV before tantrum stage sets in.

Snack options
We don’t just mean homemade seed bars, raisins and rice crackers (although include these too for variety) – stock your bag with special treats that they might not normally eat. You can even keep it partially healthy if your conscience gets the better of you, or if you’re just afraid of the affects of sugar in a confined space. We like the Natural Confectionary Company lollies, organic lollipops from Brown Rice Paradise, squeezy packs, tiny teddy biscuits, Pocky sticks and pretzels.  But we’re not above straight-out bad-for-you crisps and chocolate, either. Look for things that come in individual-portion-size packs to avoid mess and play peacemaker in sharing negotiations amongst kids. Marks and Spencer have good selections of kid-enticing biscuits and sweets that are worth checking out. Check out our recipe planner for our pick of plane snacks that are easy to make and bring with you.

surviving a flight with kids

Hours on a plane with kids feel like days, best have plenty for them to do…

Put a sock in it
Socks are much easier to deal with than taking shoes on and off for toilet trips, and a bit more hygienic than bare feet. Bring old ones that you can toss away if you don’t want to store them dirty and wash them at the other end. Some airlines provide a set in adult and kid sizes, but if you want to be sure, pack a few pairs so you can keep feet dry and relatively clean – they may need changing after toilet trips.

Time toilet trips
Get there before the food and drink trolleys start to block the aisle. We all know peak time at the toilets occurs after meal service, so obviously try to avoid this so you don’t have to stand and wait. And while hydration is key on a plane, in a bid to cap toilet trips it’s worth hiding the call button after one or two lemonade.

The right bag
This is vital for agitation reduction. We find ourselves bending over a lot during flights to reach inside the sack at our feet and retrieve multiple items every time one child or another demands a snack, toy, or distraction. You need a tote that allows you to access what you need as easily as Mary Poppins. Short of a carpet bag, we suggest something shallow, wide, soft and with lots of pockets and less zips. It’s an investment to go for a Kate Spade, but see it as an investment in your sanity. We love the convenience of magnetic closures on Skip Hop bags, not to mention that dads will happily sport them too (no pink flowers here!)

Plane and seat selection
You don’t always have the luxury to pick and choose your aircraft due to time, cost and route. But if there is room to move, then move to more room by selecting an A380 flight. The stairs on these aircraft come in handy for toddlers who want to practise their walking skills. It’s a bit boring for you, but at least they’ll be smiling and not crying. The flipside is, if there is another aircraft running on the same route at a similar time, you may want to opt for that instead as it’s likely it will be less popular than the A380 flight and you may have the chance to stretch out on a few more seats.

Gift wrap
The mere act of having something to unwrap adds instant appeal to humdrum items. Cover colouring books, sticker pads and trinkets with cute wrapping paper and ribbons and issue these tokens throughout the flight when food, movies and familiar toys just don’t cut it anymore. Instant smiles and excitement! The soft and interactive Doll House Book from IKEA is very cute.

Pull ’em up
There is no mile high club for us. Plane toilets are the scene of our aviation nightmares. We are gripped by the fear every time we enter with our kids and spend the whole time swatting hands from touching what we imagine to be germ-covered surfaces. Yes, a bit of undiagnosed OCD here, but we have a system now and it involves using pull-ups. So much easier to deal with than trying to get our kids to lie on the pokey, hard and uncomfortable change table in the toilets (and hence the socks). The downside is you do have to take off their trousers to put them on but you can get some that you can tear on the sides and stick back together, too.

Put your hands to good use
Hand and finger puppets are great distractions, especially when kids are mid-meltdown. Animating a soft animal or character with your hands and fingers can stop tears in their tracks and bring a smile to your child’s face. Yes, you will have to call on some vocal skills but kids love to hear characters come to life. Crikey the beer-swilling (and not very PC) Koala has turned up on a few of our flights and is always a hit. We love the selection of hand puppets and finger puppets at IKEA.

Map your journey
Use the information section on seatback screens to show your child the flight route, your progress along it and other nifty facts. It helps to give them a sense of control, time and routine, which in turn makes it easier to manage their expectations and avert tantrums.

Sticky situation
Toys “R” Us stock a good range of sticker books sure to keep little fingers busy for at least an hour or two. Art Friend also has big packs of brightly coloured paper-backed foam stickers. Word of warning: from past experience we have managed to redecorate entire rows of seat backs so remember to pack some paper or other surfaces that the kids can go sticker crazy on.

Wipes and hand sanitiser
You’re a mum. This really needs no explanation. You probably have shares in companies that produce these products by now.

flying with kids long haul from Singapore

Comfy clothes, soft toys and plenty of distraction will get you through your long haul flight with the kids

Fidget Spinners
Here’s one tween trend on your side: Fidget Spinnerswill keep little hands busy even when their bodies are relegated to economy seats. You’ll find them for next to nothing at all good toy stores in Singapore or online here for under $10.

Don’t give your kids any ‘medicine’ to help them sleep without reading this:
We’re not advocating drugging your children, but if you are considering dosing your kids with phenergan, valerian, Benadryl, melatonin or any other medications or herbs, always speak to your doctor first – children with respiratory issues are particularly at risk in the oxygen-reduced environment of a plane cabin and should not be dosed. If you do want to go ahead, trial it on the ground: in some kids, antihistamines can have the opposite effect and you may wind up with hyperactive tots in a tin can. If this does happen, go with it and take turns with your partner to walk up and down the aisle. Breathe.

Fresh books
There’s nothing like opening a new book and it might be enough to pull them away from the TV momentarily. Purchase a slim picture book, reader or volume of their favourite series and give that reading light a work out. We like the Complete Book of Dragons by the author who inspiredHow To Train Your Dragon, Cressida Cowell. They can pore over an encyclopedic collection on all there is to know of the mythical creature.

Spare change
Again, you’re practiced at being a mum, but it would be remiss of us not to mention packing a spare set of clothes.  Leggings, long-sleeve cotton tops, hoodies and fleecy pants from Cotton On always do the trick. Pack a spare set for yourself too – a lesson learned when a smoothie was squeezed all over us within the first hour of a long-haul flight.

Buy them a seat
If you have a baby, remember these two words: SKY COT. Secure one with your airline when you book as it will be a lifesaver (but keep in mind there are age and weight limits, so check if your bubba will still fit). If your child is under two but too big for a bassinet, it’s a good idea to purchase a seat for them, if you don’t mind the extra expense. It gives them and you more space and comfort, especially for sleeping.

Polly had a dolly
Pack a doctor’s kit and a doll or teddy and your little one can play MD for a little while. We’re not talking a toy doctor’s kit. Make your own and it will keep them occupied for a bit longer. You can include a roll of bandage, band aids/plaster, a plastic syringe, medicine cup, cool gel pack, cotton wool and a notebook and pen. The soft teddies from IKEA make good patients as they’re economical enough ($1.90) for you not to mind food getting spilled on them, have a good surface area for applying medical treatment, can be squashed in bags.

Photo albums
If you’ve got the time, put together a slim scrap book or photo album with lots of pics of family, places you’ve been and places you’re going to. Most children are really intrigued by their own history and it provides lots of talking points to pass the time on a flight.

Wired for sound
That SING movie you downloaded is no good if you don’t have a good quality head set for listening pleasure. Smiggle stock good quality, brightly decorated fold up headphones for kids for $35.

Airline selection
This is more important if you’re traveling on your own with the kids. If you think you’ll need help when you’re up in the air, pick an airline where flight staff is known for offering assistance. If you have multiple young children you may want to call on stewards and stewardesses to oversee your brood while you go to the loo or take a sanity break to look out the window at clouds. If you’re taking a budget airline, you’ll need to limit your expectations and contain food and entertainment in your bag. This is where you really become Mary Poppins.

Junk in their trunk
The fad on Trunki cases has not abated. To be honest, they don’t fit that much but kids love having their own luggage and it may as well be this – they roll easily, can be pulled along, come in bright colours and even provide transport/entertainment at the airport. Pick one up online at pupsik studio.

Play games
Old-fashioned travel games that we used to play as kids, can easily be resurrected for plane rides with your kids. While we admit that eye spy may not last to many rounds, it will help pass the time and stimulate some conversation and observation. Simon Says is another good one, as is Hang Man and tickles where you have to guess the number or letter being drawn on your back. Worth a try!

Don’t forget the Lovey!
Last but not least, make sure you pack their favourite cuddle toy, blanket or whatever their comfort item is. Hell, bring two. If you’re anything like us, you’ve lost a Jellycat soft animal and you could lose one again. They are back in stock at Motherswork at Tanglin Mall. The ensuing drama is not worth it. Call for back up.

Now, crack open that holiday read and relax, you’ll be there in no time.